Now, before you get your hopes up, I am NOT an expert on how to balance. Either physically or figuratively. But I believe that everyone’s biggest struggle is balancing all of their wants, needs, and duties. Whether they’re a SAHM, a working dad, a college student, or whatever.
Really, I just want to let you know that you aren’t alone. So here’s a look into my very UNbalanced life.
My kids are only 3, 2, and 11 months, but I wanted to get a head start on the basics.
Do you know how hard it is to get a 3 year old to pay attention? To anything? Thanking my lucky stars that she is ridiculously smart and seems to catch on to new concepts quickly.
When I first started, I was under the assumption that I would need to have a set schedule of subjects that we would discuss daily. I would spend my weekends making a “lesson-plan” if you will. I scheduled out every minute of our day.
It didn’t go ANYTHING like I expected. My kids didn’t understand that mama had a plan. That, or they just didn’t care.
We made it through our first week and hadn’t stuck to our schedule ONCE. They hadn’t learned ANYTHING. Except maybe how to drive me a little crazier.
Week 2 I decided to try a different approach. I let them pick the subjects. I let them choose our activities. And if they didn’t feel like doing any lessons that morning or afternoon, we didn’t.
The more I embraced this method, I became less frustrated, they learned more, and we had A LOT more fun.
Lets be honest. With three kiddos, ages 3 and under, we don’t get out much. The occasional appointment, grocery shopping trip, and family get together, are basically the extent of us getting out of the house. My “social life” is mostly comprised of social media. Every once in awhile the kids and I have someone over for a play date, but they’re few and far between.
So if you get out a lot, I definitely don’t have any advice to help balance that.
First of all, props to all of you moms that work. I did it for a couple years and HATED it.
My blog isn’t necessarily “work”, but it does take a considerable amount of time. I brainstorm during breakfast before my kiddos wake up fully and have a chance to invade my brain space. I typically write during nap time, and almost all of my networking is done after they go to bed.
Coffee. All the coffee.
But seriously, when I was working outside of the house, I LIVED on coffee. I have worked retail part-time, I was a preschool teacher, I worked in a call center full time, and I have been in network marketing. I survived on coffee through all four.
Even now (maybe even more-so) as a SAHM, and amateur blogger, I still live on coffee. It’s probably running through my veins.
Looking back now, I seriously overestimated and overloaded myself. So my biggest piece of advice when it comes to you work-life: Take a step back, really analyze your situation as a whole, and if you see something that isn’t working for you CHANGE it. You have the ultimate say-so over how your life flows, so take charge!
I’m ashamed to admit it, but I know someone else is dealing with this also, but this was the HARDEST area of my life to balance. I would LOVE to spend hours and hours just immersed in my Bible and study materials, but it just isn’t feasible.
A month or so back, I began to backslide on my personal study and quiet time, so I started to look for a better way. One thing that drastically helped was to color.
I know, I know. Not what you were expecting.
My first step was buying the coloring book, “The Psalms in Color”. It allowed me time to meditate on different verses. I would color one page every night before bed. It was SUCH a stress reliever! Then I started hanging them up throughout my house as a reminder throughout my day.
Shortly after that, I started giving the kids memory verses every week. But I couldn’t ask them to do something that I myself wouldn’t do, so I also gave myself passages to memorize.
We have them posted on our fridge so that we have a reminder. I can’t tell you how much it blesses my heart to hear my babies ask to practice their verses throughout the day.
I also began listening to podcasts during nap time, and we have a worship hour every morning now.
R E S T !
I heard a sermon once, and the pastor was preaching out of Genesis 1 and Luke 13. He said something along the lines of “God created the Sabbath for a reason. We need time to reset, meditate, and regroup. Even GOD Himself, the Creator of the Universe, took a day to rest!”
So don’t be afraid to give yourself some grace. Take a break. And BREATHE!