Chris, Erin, & sweet baby Kane

Cesarean Birth IS Birth

When my husband and I first met, I had just gotten out of a toxic relationship of 3 years. I wasn’t looking for anything serious, and neither was he, but it was almost as if the universe had called us together. We both had a bit of baggage and trust issues, and yet we were still drawn to each other. Our sweet Kane was a huge surprise. We were scared because we hadn’t been together long, but we were committed to each other; committed to our baby. There were fights and bad times, but through it all we loved each other.

The last days

On Wednesday, November 9th, at 40 weeks two days pregnant I walked in for my last prenatal appointment. My doctor checked to see if I was dilating, and thankfully I was already dilated to 3 centimeters! He made the decision to strip my membranes and schedule an induction for Monday, November 13th. The next day, I began to experience some contractions, but it wasn’t anything serious.

Friday morning, around 4:30 am, I was woken up by some pretty intense contractions. I began to monitor them on and off throughout the day, but still wasn’t really sure if I needed to go to the hospital. As a first time mom, I figured things would take awhile, so I sent my fiance to work. My mom arrived at home around 4:30pm and insisted on taking me to the hospital. My contractions were starting to come about 3 minutes apart, and we lived roughly 45 minutes from the hospital I planned to deliver at, so I figured it probably wouldn’t be a bad idea to at least get checked again.

BABY TIME!

It’s time for a BABY!

By the time we arrived at the hospital, my contractions were terrible. The nurses triaged me and found that I was dilated to 5 centimeters. I was admitted for delivery! Once I was transferred to a delivery room, about 30 minutes later, the nurses checked my cervix again. My water broke while being checked, and they said I was officially dilated to an 8! The anesthesiologist came in to give me my epidural, and in hindsight I am glad it was administered when it was (partially).

My baby was connected to the monitor so that the doctor and nurses could keep an eye on his heart rate. Unfortunately, every time I had a contraction, his heart rate would drop. The nurses flipped me on my side, back and forth, until they found a position that could pick up the baby’s heart rate.

Change of plans…

At this time, I started to feel extremely ill. I was really shaky and had the worst headache. I felt really weak and my labor started to stall. I wasn’t progressing anymore, and my baby was not descending like he should. My OB came in, removed the belly monitors, and inserted an internal fetal monitor to get a more accurate reading.

The monitor showed that his heart rate was steadily dropping, so we made the decision to go in for an Emergency Cesarean Section (C-section). I was TERRIFIED. This was seriously the scariest experience of my life.

Everything happened so fast. In no time at all there were nurses bustling all around me, whisking me off to the Operating Room. They had already begun the operation when they finally let my fiance in the room with me. The medication I was given made me extremely nauseous to the point I was throwing up mid-C-Section. I was FREEZING and shaking uncontrollably.

Kane Alexander Inman
Kane Alexander Inman

HE’S HERE!

Finally, at 9:44 pm on November 11, 2016 my sweet Kane Alexander Inman was born. He was 6 pounds, 9 ounces, and 20 1/2 inches long.

During my procedure, the doctors found that my son’s umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck, which is why he was unable to descend into the birth canal. It was also the reason that his heart rate kept dropping. I am so glad that we chose the C-section because it could have cost him his life otherwise. It was a day full of mixed emotions, both the scariest and best night of my life.

Through everything, my then-fiance and I grew stronger as a couple. He has been my biggest supporter, number one motivator, my best friend, the most wonderful father to our beautiful son, Kane, and now my amazing husband.

Sweet baby

Know better, do better.

Thinking back to that day and reflecting on everything that happened, I feel like things could have been drastically different. Now that I have embraced my crunchy side, I firmly believe that the medical intervention was ultimately what led to my emergency c-section. I was progressing perfectly fine until the epidural was practically forced on me. I honestly was not sure if I wanted an epidural or not, but my L&D nurse was extremely pushy. As a first time mom, I was very easily impressionable. After I received the epidural, my labor almost completely stopped. I believe in my heart that if I had stood my ground and denied the epidural, I would have gotten to experience my dream birth.

My dream now is to have a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) home birth. My C-Section made me feel like I had failed as a woman. My body couldn’t do the ONE thing it was made to do. I was depressed about the whole experience for awhile, but I am finally at peace with how the events occurred.

After a lot of research, I believe that my body can do it without interventions and I WILL get my dream birth one day.

Big boy Kane

 

Birth story submitted by Erin Inman.

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Ariel King is a Stay-At-Home mom to her three children, Lana, Ace, and Norah. Writing and researching are two of her biggest passions. People say that she is full of all kinds of useless knowledge, and it is even rumored she has a Google PhD. She is not a typical mainstream mom, imperfect in every way, but is on a mission to encourage and inspire other moms. Her belief is that no one should feel alone in the day to day of motherhood.

13 thoughts on “Cesarean Birth IS Birth

  1. I never will have a natural birth. Since I waited thirteen years to get pregnant, it was okay by me. However that baby came out, was fine by me. But I do sometimes wonder what a normal birth is like. Even if I get pregnant again, they advise me not to have a vaginal birth due to my medical history. It was good I chose to follow their suggestion, because had I not, my delivery could have been a lot worse.

    1. Oh wow! So glad that everything came out okay with you and your baby! I definitely agree that cesarean is sometimes necessary. My friend (who wrote this post) just feels that it may not have been needed had her birth plan been followed. Thank you so much for taking the time to read!

    1. I have had countless friends tell me that they have had similar experiences as far as being pushed into the epidural. It really is a shame that mother’s wishes aren’t respected. Especially at such a vulnerable time. In my experience, the only way to avoid being pushed into the epidural is to tell them that you have previously given birth without it! My third birth was the ONLY one that I was not pressured into getting one.

  2. I think one thing you aren’t prepared for is how to deal with people who have different expectations and agendas for what you want in the delivery room. I think we kind of expect some dissenting opinions at times with our families, but it’s the medical professionals that can throw me for a loop. I had a friend who was committed to a fully natural birth and she was constantly being asked about whether she wanted pain medication, epidural etc. Then she opted not to get every single vaccine for her son on the day he was born and one of the nurses was pretty pushy and rude about it. It definitely affirmed me in having a solidified birth plan ahead of time and thinking about how I will be assertive and hold my ground when the time comes.

    1. YES! Handling family members opinions is one thing, but having to be on the defense with the medical professionals is HARD. I experienced the same with my second birth. I was committed to a natural birth but my nurse CONTINUED to ask about the epidural and pain meds. I had to REPEATEDLY tell her I didn’t want them. I had the same plan with my first, but didn’t stand my ground unfortunately. I have now had 2 unmedicated childbirths and REFUSE to ever get another epidural!

  3. It’s so hard when your plans don’t go the way you’d expected. I had it written down to the last detail for my first child and nothing happened as planned. So then I had a planned caesarean with my second, as I had panicked that it would ‘go wrong again’ like the first time. I wouldn’t change it but I wish I had been better informed, cared for and encouraged by midwives in pregnancy to not let my fear get in the way. It’s definitely not a failure, birth is birth, but I totally went through that process too, and debunking shame! Next time I’m going to have a home birth (if there’s a next time)! Go with what you know your body can handle!

    1. Knowledge certainly is power! I wish I had done just HALF of the research that I have done at this point prior to having my kids! Praying you are able to have a home birth in the future!

  4. This absolutely describes my first delivery. The first time is terrifying, for sure. I was never able to have a natural birth, all three of mine have been c-section, and even though I’ve felt like less of a woman in the past for going that route, I definitely don’t now. Motherhood is tough and so is pregnancy, but ultimately you do what us best for mom and baby. Great post, momma!

    1. Bless your heart. A C-Section has been my biggest fear with each of my pregnancies.Serious props to mamas that have to endure it, and more-so those that have to endure it more than once!

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