Homeschooling: Pros, Cons, and Misconceptions

HOMESCHOOLING: PROS, CONS, AND MISCONCEPTIONS

In this day and age, more and more families are contemplating the decision to home school their precious babies. It has become extremely common to come across stories about a child being abused in day care, a teacher mistreating a student, or even students retaliating against their school. Before my husband and I even considered dating, we both discussed that we would like our future children to be home schooled. Once our first child was conceived, it was set in stone. No matter what sacrifices were necessary, we would be homeschooling.

However, when discussing our choice with family, friends, and even strangers we come across, we are often met with a certain level of hostility. A lot of people, even now, think that we are joking when we say our children won’t be attending public school!

One of the biggest misconceptions I have noticed, is that when most people think of homeschooling they automatically place children into a category. These children are assumed to be super religious, nerdy, shy, and not very socialized. Parents who make this decision are assumed to be over protective and naive that they can truly monitor their children’s surroundings. While none of these things are bad, they aren’t true for all families.

Homeschooling has advanced in many different aspects over the years and does not fit into one little bubble like it used to.

Homeschooling pros

 

Pros of Homeschooling

  1. Flexibility

    • With traditional schooling, parents are told when their child has to be, where they have to be, what they have to wear, which topics they will/will not have to learn about, and who is allowed to be with them. When they arrive on school grounds, every minute of their day is already planned for them. They are told  which subjects they will study, what books they will read, what types of projects they will do, how they will do them, and who they will do them with.
    • Now, obviously kids do need to learn structure and rules, but I personally believe that too much structure can stifle their independence and creative nature.
    • From the parental aspect of a home schooler, you don’t have to worry about doctor’s notes, missed lessons and classwork, or scheduling vacations around the school year. Homeschooling allows for lessons to be taught anywhere at anytime.
  2. Student’s are able to learn at THEIR pace

    • In home schooling, students aren’t placed on a schedule where they are expected to learn a certain number of facts or figures within a certain time period. If a student is able to grasp the concept of long division in one day, then cool. They can move on. If it takes them three weeks (or longer), then COOL. They aren’t being constantly compared to their classmates because….. you guessed it. NO CLASSMATES!
  3. Teacher to Student Ratio

    • Now, unless your family is relatively “Duggar” sized, then the teacher to student ratio will be significantly lower than those of public or private schools. Teachers in the school system today are outnumbered! As of 2014, less than 50% of the people in public schools were teachers. In 2017, the national average public school teacher to student ratio was 1:16!
    • As a parent, working one on one with our child, we can pinpoint specific areas that are children are struggling with. We also have the freedom to be as creative as possible to help them really grasp the concept. We are not limited by state curriculum and so we are able to teach our kids what they really need to know and spend more time on those topics.
  4. Safety

    • This has been a major issue that has pushed many parents to start researching their options for home schooling. [Every state has different legal requirements, so if this is something that has been on your heart to pursue, make sure that you do your research,.] As I said in my post the other day, NO ONE is going to take care of our babies the same way that we will. NO ONE is going to protect our babies the way that we would. As a parent, we have our children’s best interests at heart. Unfortunately, this is not always the case for teachers and administrators that we trust with our babies day in and day out. Not only that, but the likelihood of a home school shooting is slim to none.

Cons of Homeschooling

  1. …………………………..

    • In all seriousness, I can’t think of any cons in a normal homeschooling environment with loving parents.
    • Parents who home school don’t have the luxury of time away from their kids very often, so burn out is very possible. However, kids could just as easily get tired of being with their family every second of the day. But if this is their norm, they may actually enjoy it. When comparing the two options, homeschooling pros definitely take the cake.

Homeschooling

Misconceptions

  1. Home schooled kids lack socialization skills.

    • Back in the day, it was the norm for home schooled children to be secluded. Because of this their social skills were severely lacking. Be that as it may, the world of homeschooling has changed drastically. There are home school groups and co-ops that meet to allow the kids to make friends and also have classes together.
    • My children have each other to socialize with, obviously. Past that, they have friends at church, their extra curricular activities, the library, and my friends’ children! My kids are sociable (once you get them past the mean mugging stage). The majority of the people we come in contact with don’t even believe my oldest is home schooled!
  2. Homeschooling provides a sub-par education.

    • There are so many unlimited resources that can be used to give your kids a good, quality education. While I realize that not every homeschooling parent will utilize every resource that is available to them, a good majority of us do! My four year old is counting to fifty, learning to write in manuscript and cursive, can tell you a good bit about how the human body works, and knows a great deal about animals, their habits, and their ecosystems. She is also learning Spanish and American Sign Language! Not only is she working on academics, but she is learning valuable life skills including cooking and sewing.
    • Because we aren’t limited by curriculum or time constraints, we are able to cover so much more in a day’s time!
  3. Homeschooling is expensive.

    • This can be a true statement, but anything can be expensive if you let it be. There are tons of FREE resources at your disposal if you are willing to take the time to research!
    • A few of my favorite free resources are:
      • Easy Peasy All-in-One Homeschool – This site contains a completely free, Christian based curriculum for pre-school through high school!
      • An Old Fashioned Education – If you’re looking for something more structured and traditional, this is the curriculum for you! Everything is broken down into a 40 week lesson plan. All of the text materials can be found for free online. Subjects are extremely diverse and are interesting enough to keep even the most distracted child interested!
    • The resources listed above are my go-tos, but if you are interested in viewing a few more options visit Only Passionate Curiosity! This is a blog dedicated to homeschooling and everything that the topic encompasses!
  4. “I can’t home school because…”

    • We are our own greatest critics. Whether it comes to physical appearance, business ventures, or depth of knowledge. If you look hard enough, you can probably find a “good” reason not to do anything.
    • So what if you didn’t go to college! So what if you have no idea what you’re doing — confession: we’re ALL playing it by ear! You know your child better than any teacher. As their parent you know what they’re good at. Their likes and dislikes. How they learn best. YOU.
    • Growing up, they learn their most fundamental skills from mommy and daddy. They learn how to speak and walk. Tie their shoes and use their manners. Share their toys and love others. If they can learn all of these things from YOU, then why can’t they learn about math and science from you? Why can’t they learn how to comprehend literature from YOU?
    • We tell our children that they are capable of anything and that they can take on the world. And sometimes we need to take our own advice.

Homeschooling can be such a rewarding experience for both parent and child. It doesn’t matter what your back ground is, or even how well you did in school. With all of the resources available, I think that with a little bit of effort ANYONE can be a success with this.

Homeschooling: Pros, Cons, and Misconceptions

 

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Ariel King is a Stay-At-Home mom to her three children, Lana, Ace, and Norah. Writing and researching are two of her biggest passions. People say that she is full of all kinds of useless knowledge, and it is even rumored she has a Google PhD. She is not a typical mainstream mom, imperfect in every way, but is on a mission to encourage and inspire other moms. Her belief is that no one should feel alone in the day to day of motherhood.

7 thoughts on “HOMESCHOOLING: PROS, CONS, AND MISCONCEPTIONS

  1. When I tell other moms that we are homeschooling, they want to give me a “solution.”
    I’m like, oh this is what we think it’s best for our child!
    Keep in Mind that the “best” public school in my area, (which we are not zoned for) just eliminated the arts program!
    Good for you!

    1. YES! Or giving different suggestions on how to get them into a private school at a lower cost. Thanks, but NO THANKS! I feel like people make so many assumptions about homeschooling that they don’t even recognize their could be more reasons than just being overprotective.

  2. As a homeschool graduate, I can say that homeschooling was amazing. All the pros you said were true, and all the misconceptions you mentioned are all the reasons people say they don’t want to homeschool. Personally, I think myself to be one of the most sociable people I know, and I think I can operate just fine in “society”, thank you very much. I got to spend more time with my friends (quality time, I might add) than any public schooled student is allowed.
    Also, as an elementary educator, I can vouch for the fact that true, quality interactions between friends at school is closely monitered and often inhibited. So…how is that advancing social skills? Haha Go homeschool, mamas!

  3. Very interesting! I honestly would never homeschool my kids because I don’t have the patience for it. I volunteer in my oldest’s classroom every week and I’m just amazed at the patience and love his teacher shows. She is such a pro. I know that my son and I would drive each other bonkers if I was his teacher. But if you’re gifted at this and enjoy it, more power to you!

    1. I do agree that homeschooling may not be the right choice for all families. But, I also think that there isn’t enough knowledge about it, for various reasons that I won’t go into now. Ultimately, we as parents know what will benefit our children the best, so whatever choice that may be: Rock it, mama!

  4. Very informative!!! No social skills is definitely a misconception!! I was homeschooled up until 9th grade and I had plenty of friends before I started public school. You are definitely right about the kids and parents getting burnt out of each other though. That totally happened when I was homeschooled. I saw my mom too much and it wasn’t bad when I was like really young but once I hit middle School grades, it became difficult.

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