Marie Kondo’s KonMari Method gave me back my sanity

I have been planning to do this post for weeks now, but ya know. Life.

Between hospital visits and the birthdays of both of my daughters, I have either been in pain or jumping through hoops since my last post! But IM BACK.

One of the questions that I am asked all the time is “How do you stay sane with three young children!?” The real answer is I don’t.

Not what you were hoping for?

Truth is that between three littles, their different personalities, their messes, their fights, general housekeeping, homeschooling, etc., 8 out of 10 days I am about ready to pull my hair out. One of my biggest pet peeves is a cluttered house, and with five people I feel like the clutter NEVER ends. I get one room cleaned just to walk into another disaster. That is until I found Marie Kondo.

A friend of mine started an online book club on Facebook that began in January. Throughout this year we will be reading books that focus on intentional living in all aspects of our life (home, spirit, health, food, and relationships). The first book of the year was The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. And it has made a WORLD of difference in my home!

At the beginning of the book, we were asked to share our biggest struggle. Mine has always been the dining room.

It is the dumping grounds for everything. The bookshelves. The table. The floor. Everything seems to find its way back to here. I put things away just to find them right back here the next day.

In Kondo’s book, she discusses how people are never truly taught how to tidy their home. We see tons of storage solutions advertised. By learning to put things in a place, we become storage experts just trying to fit all of our things into a space.

The KonMari Method takes a new approach. Instead of cleaning by room (which I have always been guilty of), you clean by category.

It sounds crazy at first, but makes tons of sense once you get into it.

The first category is clothing. She advises you to take all of your clothes from everywhere in the house and dump them in the floor.

If you’re like me, then you have a hard time deciding what to get rid of, but Kondo has an interesting approach to that as well. The Spark Joy Method. Basically you pick up each individual item of clothing. If it sparks joy within you, you keep it. If not, you trash/donate it. Using this approach, it took me all of 30 minutes to go through all of my clothes and ultimately get rid of HALF.

Throughout each category, you always use the Spark Joy Method.

During this entire decluttering process I learned that I am an organized hoarder. When going through all of my papers, I filled up an entire trash bag. Of nothing but paper. How ridiculous is that!?

My favorite part of the KonMari Method was relearning how to fold clothes! Sounds silly, right? How much can there possibly be to learn about folding!?


Kondo’s method of folding allows for you to see every piece of clothing you own all at once. No digging. No getting things out just to find a hidden shirt in the back of your drawer. With her method, I can simply open my drawer, glance over everything and easily pick mine and the kids clothes for the day.

It took me awhile to refold all the clothes in the house, but SO WORTH IT. What used to take me a minimum of 30 minutes to find clothes for the kids every morning now only takes a maximum of 5 minutes!!!!!

While folding may not seem like a big deal, but it is such a stress reliever to know how much easier I can get everyone dressed every day.

End result?

In total, 1 trash bag of clothes, 1 trash bag of papers, and a tote full of random items around the house (some of which had never even been used!) were thrown out. My house has TRULY been organized now! Aside from cleaning up the daily mess my kids make, no other “tidying” has to be done!

So if you find yourself with more stuff than storage, not enough time in your day to tidy, or one or more area constantly getting cluttered, then pick up a copy and give the KonMari Method a try!!

Ariel King is a Stay-At-Home mom to her three children, Lana, Ace, and Norah. Writing and researching are two of her biggest passions. People say that she is full of all kinds of useless knowledge, and it is even rumored she has a Google PhD. She is not a typical mainstream mom, imperfect in every way, but is on a mission to encourage and inspire other moms. Her belief is that no one should feel alone in the day to day of motherhood.

10 thoughts on “Marie Kondo’s KonMari Method gave me back my sanity

  1. That is some really good advice. I definitely need to try this! I have 4 kids and a husband and I feel like I can never get through all the clutter!

  2. This is awesome! I have got to try this! I have too much of everything.
    I’ll definitely be going through our clothes with this method to help get what we need quicker. It always takes me forever to figure out what I’m going to wear.
    Maybe I’ll keep a little bit more of my sanity this way too 🙂

    1. Yes!!! I always say, “Oh, well, I may need this later…” a big thing that she recommends is to NOT try stuff on, and to NOT flip through your books when you go through them!

      If it doesn’t spark joy, it’s got to go!

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