Disclaimer: This post is not meant to offend either working or stay-at-home moms.
Throughout most of history, it was a mother’s job to stay home, keep house, and raise babies. Somewhere along the line things got jumbled and women became the backbone of the workforce. Now, most mothers work outside of the home for various reasons.
I’m in quite a few mom groups on Facebook, like there should probably be a limit to the number of mom groups you can join. Lately, I have been hearing more and more misconceptions about what SAHM (stay-at-home moms) do/don’t do all day. So I had to ask my mama friends, and I want to share with you some of my favorite SAH mama myths.
SAHM Myth 1: “You get to sleep in everyday!”
Sleep? Is sleep even a thing?
Let me let y’all in on a secret…. WE DON’T SLEEP. We survive on coffee.
I stay up late cleaning. My youngest wakes up to nurse a few times through the night. My middle has nightmares and has to use the bathroom in the middle of the night, but he can’t go on his own. My oldest is the only one who sleeps, but you can bet she will be up with the sun!
9 out of 10 days, I am up at the same time or earlier than my husband… When I “sleep in”, I’m still only averaging 5-6 hours of sleep.
SAHM Myth 2: “You have TONS of free time.”
Sure. In between cooking, cleaning, laundry, cleaning, snacks, cleaning, wrestling my toddlers for 3 hours to take a nap, cleaning, nursing a baby, snacks (again), cleaning…. I think you get the idea… My “free time” comes in when the kids have lost their minds and I have chosen to ignore them for 5-10 minutes.
SAHM Myth 3: “You’re house must be spotless since you’re there all the time.”
This couldn’t be further from the truth…
I sweep my house 15 times a day–no exaggeration–but I’ll bet you it will have to be done at least 5 more times before I go to bed.
I wash dishes four times a day, and I still have dishes in my sink.
I do laundry EVERY STINKIN’ DAY, and there will still be more tomorrow.
I pick up toys (and have the kids pick up toys) at least 4 times a day.
And most days, when my husband gets home from work it STILL looks like a tornado came through my house.
The ONLY time my house is clean for more than 30 minutes is if my kids have gone to visit their Gigi or they’re asleep.
SAHM Myth 4: “SAHM have it easy, they can relax alllll day long.”
First of all, my kids are 3, 2, and 11 months.
They fight like cats and dogs. I break up AT LEAST 15 fights a day. My older two are on nap strike and when I CAN get them to take a nap, you can bet money they won’t be asleep at the same time. These little gremlins are ALWAYS hungry. I don’t know where they put it all, but they are bottomless pits. My youngest is still nursing, and for those of you that have ever breastfed a toddler, you know there is nothing relaxing about it.
There is nothing relaxing about being a mom. Period.
SAHM Myth 5: “Staying home with your kids isn’t a real job, might as well call it a permanent vacation.”
I have worked retail. I have worked in a daycare. I have worked in a call center.
Staying home with my kids has been the REALEST job I’ve had.
I’m a teacher, chef, janitor, chauffeur, nurse, referee. I make sure the bills get paid, the house is full of groceries, and no one dies or gets injured. I kiss invisible booboos, potty train, play along with my kids’ imaginations.
I work 365 days a year, and am on call 24 hours a day. I get no days off, even when sick or injured. No PTO. No holidays. No winter breaks.
This is no vacation, by any means, but it is the best and most important job I have ever had or will ever have.